This has been a topic at the top of my mind, my journals, my therapy sessions, conversations with friends, etc.
Why go back to someone who’s hurt us?
My breakup with the ex-husband took about six months from start to finish. As my book dictates, he dropped the initial bomb into our relationship during a phone call when I was away on an extended work trip. Then, there was a brief period in which we “worked on it.” Following that, there was the time he formally asked for a divorce, but made it my job to accomplish. And then he made statements like, I don’t know if I truly want it.
And then there was the period of one week in which he moved back in. It seemed like he was, in fact, my person, rather than this other thing breaking my heart.
THAT moment infuriated some of my closest family and friends. Why let him back in?
I loved him. Even after I found out about his affair with another woman.
Going back, or even leaving, is not a simple decision; and we all have our own individualized decision matrixes.
I could have stayed. I had enough love to do it.
But I also could not live with myself if I chose our relationship over myself, even with all the hurt that came with leaving it behind.
Either way, it all comes down to a choice.
