Putting yourself out there…is exhausting.
It takes energy to get on a dating app, craft a decent profile, brainstorm catchy introductory questions, calendar search for a date and time to potentially meet. I surmise that even the most extroverted extrovert is drained by this process.
But we still do it.
Perspective is important. Accountability is too. Both have changed my personal approach.
First, it’s all about going through the motions – dating for the sake of dating (safely of course). I set a quota – one date a month – to hold myself to. Otherwise, I’ll be out of practice, and it’ll get hard to get going all over again.
Second, find yourself a support group. I have found a group of women who share their own stories, accounts, and experiences as they search for love. If there are people on the journey with you, it makes the rigmarole a little more fun.
Third, get off the app as soon as possible. If you stick to the back and forth talking without meeting, you may form your own idea of who the person is rather than experience reality.
Finally, think of every date as its own story. Every interaction you have with another person may lead to inspiration.
